ARE YOU PUTTING YOURSELF IN A BOX?

by - May 12, 2018


These days we are OBSESSED with labeling ourselves.  We simply have to know our MBTI type, our favorite color, what we're good at (or not), our age, grade, level, knowledge.  For gosh sake, there are quizzes out there to help you find out which type of pizza you are.

Don't get me wrong, I think it's amazing to learn about ourselves and others and how we think/work differently.  But does it ever go a little too far? 

I believe so.  Sure, some people recharge by being alone-while others need humans to get their energy.  But I'm an extrovert and I  *gasp* like being alone.  Yep.

Many times I've chosen to stay at home with a movie vs going out for a party.  Crazy.  Am I really an extrovert?  Maybe.


I've found that many people upon reading things about themselves, or their "type" are confused.  One thing sounds just like them, while another doesn't.  You know why?  Because not everyone can fit into 16 categories!  EVERYONE IS DIFFERENT. 

It's so sad when I see someone talking about their flaws saying something like, "Yeah, I can't help it.  Its part of my personality."

Yes, I know.  Human nature is selfish and mean.  But that doesn't mean you can't change.  Don't accept your flaws as "part of your personality."  In my opinion the whole point of learning about yourself is to learn how to improve and change.  

We are so into being true to ourselves that we force those around us to accept our flaws.  Well what if that person's flaw is impatience?  How do you expect them to be patient with you??  


 When I was little (about 3 or 4) I adored strawberries.  I still do, actually.  Whenever we bought them I thought I was entitled to eat all of them because I loved them the most.  I identified with strawberries.  Even at a young age I was searching for my identity.  

Where should our identity really be?  In God.

"But, Ella.  You're supposed to be telling us how to STOP putting ourselves in a box.  Now you're telling me to limit myself to God?"

Nope.  Having your identity in Christ is not putting yourself in a box.  You know why?  Because God is unlimited!  



In Abbie's mission statement she made a list of all the things she was.  Musician, blogger, writer, etc.  Then at the bottom she wrote,

I am subject to change.

Say wha?  Yes, you can change.  You are MEANT TO CHANGE.  Change is a very, very good thing not matter how scary it seems sometime.  

One thing that has always helped me cope with change is the fact that God NEVER changes.  He is the same today and yesterday and tomorrow.  Always loving and adoring you.  

My advice for you today is to throw out all the labels you've ever used for yourself.  Start fresh.  You have the power to decide you are a new person at any moment in your life.        


Talk To Me

What's one label you've used to describe yourself?  Do you think labels are good?  What are you doing this fine Saturday?

~ Ella Marie 



  

  

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25 comments

  1. Hi Ella! Cool post! I find it extra interesting because my dad and grandpa have come up with a new way of typing people and has assessed over 100,00 people for 20 years. There are so many different versions of let's say for example, an ESTJ. You can be tough, shy, or animated. Your personality is based a lot on your nurture and not just your nature so I get it that you don't maybe like big parties and prefer to do things alone!!❤ I am an extrovert but am more introverted based on being one of many kids and being home-schooled!💜

    ❤-Kalea

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    1. Thanks so much for reading a commenting, Kalea! Wow, that sounds really cool! Exactly, no one fits something exactly. Haha, I don't always like big groups, but I actually prefer to do things with other people than by myself.

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  2. P.S. But I totally get you when you say to be careful not to limit or put yourself in a box. There are things you are better at being your type but that doesn't mean you can't try to do anything and succeed! !!

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    1. Thank! Yes, I believe anyone can do anything. <3

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  3. Sweet post with such a true message, Ella! <3

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  4. BEAUTIFUL POST, ELLA! This is so true. I’m kind of obsessed with the MBTI, but I guess I kind of have let my “personality” define me. We definitely don’t have to limit ourselves to that kind of thing. Thank you for posting this, Ella! I needed it!
    ~ riley aline

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    1. Awww, thank you, Riley!!! LOL, I have been in the past (I especially love them for characters), but I've sort of grown out of it? I'm SO glad you enjoyed this post, thanks for reading, girl!

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  5. Wow, this was awesome. People really need to hear this. I will change, and there will always be things that should change, but I am so grateful that GOD WILL NEVER CHANGE. This was fantastic.
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    1. Thanks so much, Erica! <333 EXACTLY! Everyone is constantly changing and adapting. It isn't a bad thing, it means we're growing. YES! I'm so happy you liked it!

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  6. YESSS! You have said all this so well. Labels kill me but sometimes it's just fun to say I am this and that. Might wanna stop doing that to myself ha

    Simply Me

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    1. EEP, thanks, Vanessa!!! Haha, it definitely can be fun to have specific labels for yourself.

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  7. Awesome post, Ella! Very well said and inspirational! <3 And it's true, God never does change!!

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    1. THANK YOU, LIZ! I'm thrilled to hear you enjoyed it. No, He never does!

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  8. "We are so into being true to ourselves that we force those around us to accept our flaws." <<< THIS. And it's so true, too that we let labels define us to the extent that we think we can never move beyond them. Everything in this post is so well said. GO YOU. *fistbump*

    I have a love / hate relationship with labels. Some labels are helpful. If someone asks what I do for a living or what my hobbies are, a "label" answer would satisfy them. For instance: "I'm a photographer, and a gardener." And that's not a bad thing - it just helps people understand you better.

    But on the other hand, if labels become a box that you feel you can't escape from - that's where they become unhealthy. For instance, a writer who's always written adventure stories, suddenly gets an idea for a romance novel. She writes and decides publishes it, but some people tell her, "wait a second. don't you write adventure stories? what do you think you're doing, writing romance?" If that deters her from publishing because everyone want to stuff her back into the "adventure stories" box - that isn't cool.


    cheers.
    k.

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    1. This comment made my day, Keira! Exactly, labels are helpful (and necessary). It's when we confine ourselves to them that they become a problem. YES! You got it down, girl! Thank you so much for commenting! <3

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  9. Hey there! I have to admit, I stumbled onto this post and when I read what you wrote about how even though you're an extrovert you like to have alone time, I was like...wait, I wonder if you're an ENFP xD So I checked and YAY HELLO FELLOW ENFP!! We're a crazy bunch :)

    I agree with this post so much. You hit so many important things. Labels can be nice, but they should never limit us. We aren't human doings, we're human beings.

    Great post!

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    1. Ahaha, no way! That's hilarious! Yep, ENFPs for the win!
      My thoughts exactly! Thanks for reading, girl! <3

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  10. Thanks for posting this! It was something I needed to hear. So many times I use the, "it's just my personality" excuse. This is something I need to work on. Your last two sentences really hit home! Thanks for sharing!
    -Brooklyne

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    1. Of course. I'm am SO glad to hear that it affected you. Same here, girl. It's a sorry excuse, but an easy one. Thank YOU for reading. Much love!

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  11. I really, really like this post! I like labels. I really, really do. I look up what I'm supposed to be like (as a ESFP) and since I relate to those, I just live them out more and more. But the flip side of that, they are restraining, and I also like to break the stereotypes and just LIVE LIFE however I want, and it is SO FREEING. Great post!

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    1. EEEP, thank you so much, Hanne! I do to, but it's is truly hard to let that be the main thing that defines us. Thanks for brightening my day!

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  12. OK, I know I’m really late to the show here, but WOW. I really needed to hear this. That last paragraph especially really hit me hard.

    One thing I also think is true is that people also put us in boxes, and sometimes we feel like we have to stay in those little confined spaces. But breaking through your reputation is so freeing and amazing! (Sorry, that was random.)

    Anyways, great post!

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    1. Haha, you're all good. ;) Yes, I forgot to mention that, but it's very true! We often morph into whatever is expected of us. <3

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